WHAT TO EXPECT
The grieving process has a natural flow of energy that if allowed will take us where we need to go to heal and become whole again. Imagine you are floating in a river; the water is rough and fast at first. You are tossed about crashing into rocks and almost going under. Then, the water gradually slows and becomes smooth. You relax and are in the flow. Ever so often, you hit a rough spot, but it does not last for long and you know this and are less frightened. It is painful, but there are moments of peace and even joy amongst the pain. In time, you find yourself drifting into shallow waters. You come to shore and are walking again. You are in a new place and experiencing new things. You no longer feel so broken and become interested and engaged in life around you. You never forget what was lost, but now the beloved is integrated and internalized in a way that you feel deeply connected once again.
OTHER EXPERIENCES OF LOSS
The death of a loved one is the most common way we think of loss and grief, however, there are many other significant losses such as illness/injury, loss of a job, a beloved pet, divorce/separation, aging, empty nest or moving that can cause us to experience grief. Regardless of what you have lost, the grieving process is much the same. The more significant the loss, the longer the process will take.